Befriending Fear

We have been afraid of fear, we live with fear, we try to conquer fear, but how many of us try to befriend fear? If you were to treat fear like a friend, you would begin to understand it and ultimately get more out of it.

Fear is your natural true vibration filtered through a belief system that is out of tune with your true, core self. Love is your natural vibration filtered through a belief system that is in alignment with your natural, true, core self. Your range of emotions - from excitement, love and joy to depression, disempowerment and fear - is there to tell you at any moment how close or far you are from your true, core self.

An analogy would be playing a piano. If you are playing your piano and you are enjoying the music, then suddenly come across a sour note - "plunk" - do you run away in panic, screaming " I shall never touch my piano again"? No. You say, "I need to tune the piano" so that the key becomes harmonious with all the other keys.

Each piano key is like a definition, a belief. When you come across one that gives you the sensation of fear, all that's telling you is to pay attention: you have a belief in this area of your life that is out of alignment with the whole of your life. Fine-tune it, bring it back into harmony, explore it and don't run away. Ask yourself what you would have to do tune it. How would you have to redefine it? How would you have to adjust this string in order to bring the piano back into tune, into alignment? Play with it little by little, until finally it's back.

There is a paradox here, and paradox is a very powerful tool. When you make a friend of your fear, when you know your fear is there to tell you something you want to know, you will invite it in. And miraculously, instantly, your fear will vanish. Because you will have transformed it into, first, curiosity - "What could this mean?" - and then into joy, by being willing to explore what it means for you.

That is how you use fear. Fear is just a knock at the door saying to pay attention here: this is something you want to know about yourself, this is something you need to know to integrate within yourself, to become more of who you are.

And wouldn't that be fun?

Today's blog is an excerpt from Algernon Williams's book, Awakening to Freedom: A Metaphysical Approach to Life Coaching. Earlier installments are available here and here. Algernon will be offering a two-day workshop, Healing With Energy, this weekend at Healium. Click here for details.

Text © Algernon Williams 2011
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Awakening to Freedom: Some Concepts, Pt. 2

Today Algernon Williams takes us through the remaining core concepts from his book Awakening to Freedom: A Metaphysical Approach to Life Coaching.


Belief systems

The next concept is simply that your belief systems or your definitions are nothing more than the stories you tell. As that voice in your head talks to you day in and day out, you learn to believe what it is saying. But that voice can only talk from its story of past, present and future, from its current understanding of the reflection in its mirror. To make a change in your definitions, your beliefs, your motivations, your actions and so your life all you have to do is change the story. Tell the story of what you want, not what you have or what is happening. As you tell the story of what you want and begin to believe that new story, everything in the reflection must change as well.

Knowingness through surrender

This concept is above and beyond the idea of belief. It is simple knowingness, which comes from surrender, of letting go.

Our definitions of the word "surrender" usually include the idea of loss of some sort, or a lack of control or giving up, but this is not what I am talking about.

Surrender is the letting go of the concept of who you think you're supposed to be, and actually being who you are. When you allow yourself to the idea and the experience that you are created in the image of the Infinite, you give yourself access to infinite possibilities. Physical reality, which is only a mirror, can then reflect those unlimited possibilities back to you, in the form of synchronicities as they naturally unfold in your physical day-to-day life.

Surrender is actually the acceptance of your total self, not the forsaking of yourself as society would normally think of it.

Follow your joy

This brings us to our key concept, which puts all the other concepts together, and that has to do with being your sovereign self, which is simply another way of saying "Follow your joy."

Follow your excitement to the best of your ability, because the sensation of joy, excitement or unconditional love is the frequency of the energy that represents your natural, true, core, original self. So when you are acting on circumstances and opportunities that bring the highest level of joy, the highest level of excitement, you are saying you have the faith, the trust, to take the steps to act on your true self; and in so doing your physical reality, the mirror, will support you. It has no choice but to do so.

This is how we manifest our desires, this is how we find freedom; this is how we live the life we choose.

Text © Algernon Williams 2011

Awakening to Freedom: Some Concepts

Life coach, energy healer and massage therapist Algernon Williams has recently published his first book, Awakening to Freedom: A Metaphysical Approach to Life Coaching. Al's words on the healing journey really resonate with us, so we're very pleased to periodically share excerpts of his book as part of an ongoing series. Enjoy!


Let's begin with some groundwork of the primary concepts that will be contained in almost every aspect we'll discuss.

Many of you have heard about or worked with certain concepts and tools that help develop different states of being, certain states of mind that allow you to understand more clearly who and what you are as a person, as a being, as a personality.

Understanding the structure and the nature of yourself as a person and as a being will allow you to make changes, make shifts in your reality in the manner that you desire more effortless, with more joy and less pain.

These concepts are paramount now that we are in the "Age of Transition," the "Age of Awareness." These tools and concepts that I am presenting can hopefully be easily understood and applied, so that you can see the results in yourselves and in your physical reality relatively quickly.

Self-valuation

The first and foremost concept is that of self-valuation. I have come to understand from my personal experiences, as well as the experience of many of my clients, that one of the most difficult things that we have to do is learn to value ourselves. We have forgotten our connection with the infinite, partially because for many years we have been taught to think of ourselves as less than worthy, as undeserving, as possessing little or no value. Without an understanding of our worth, without an understanding of our value, no tool would really be effective.

Only when you begin to learn, behave and hold true that you are a worthwhile aspect of the infinite, that you are a beautiful and unconditionally loved and supported aspect of creation, and hold yourself in the same value that all of creation holds you in, only then will the tools be effective in the strongest way possible.

Physical reality as a mirror

Another concept is that physical reality is really just a mirror, that it can only reflect what you put out. The energy, the vibrational frequency you give off based on your beliefs, your emotions, your behavior, is what determines the kind of reality you experience. Simply put, physical reality doesn't exist except as a reflection of what you most strongly believe is true for you. That's all that physical reality is, just a mirror.

If you're looking in a mirror and you see your face with a frown on it, you know that you don't try to force the reflection to smile. You know that if you want to see the reflection smile you must smile first. When you decide to smile, the reflection has no choice but to return the smile.

Stretching this into our physiological reality, understand that we all have been trained, and taught to insist that we only base our behavior on the things that happen to us, on what is happening, on what is. We say things like "Get real," "Can't you see it's true?", "It's happening right in front of my eyes so how can I do anything about it?"and "I'll be happy if . . . I'll be happy when" - does all this sound familiar?

When you understand the principle you will realize it's more a matter of "I'll be happy because that's what I want to be!" When you choose to be happy simply because you can be, because that's what you want to be, the instant you choose to be that vibration of happiness the reflection in your physical reality has no choice but to reflect a reality that corresponds to the vibration of your joy. Because the universal reflecting mirror doesn't have a mind of its own, it can't contradict you, it's not going to argue with you. It's simply the reflection of what you put there, that's all. So if you are the vibration of happiness, you will get the reflection in all the ways that are reflective of your happiness; to the degree that your happiness vibration is turned on, you'll get that reality.

However, here's the fine print - this is what trips many of us up and gets us into trouble: We're still placing a condition on our happiness even when we think we're not. You might say, "Oh, yes, I'll be happy because I know that if I am happy then I'll get this happy reality, then I'll get what I want, then I'll get what I desire." If . . . then, if . . . then. You are still making it conditional on what happens outside of you and there is no outside. In order for the principle to really work, in order for reality to reflect back to you the true reflection of your happiness, you have to be happy, with no expectation that you will get a reflection back.

That's how it works. That's what makes it effortless. That's what makes it flawless. That's what makes it pristine. That's what makes it beautiful. That's what makes it awesome. You don't even have to think about what will come back, you simply can take it for granted, you can know, you simply can have gratitude towards the infinite, knowing that when you are happy nothing else can happen but happy reflections, and that will automatically bring you all of your desires.

Text © Algernon Williams 2011